10 signs you’re getting comfortable in your relationship
Written by Nhatalya Pagtakhan
The first few months/year(s) of a relationship, you might be more inclined to show off your best self in front of your significant other (S/O). Eventually, you’ll start to let your guards down (in a good way!). While it can cause some stress to do so, getting truly comfortable with the person you’re in a relationship with allows you both to speak your truths and be yourselves. So, here are 10 possible signs this is happening between you and your S/O:
1. You respond back to their texts ASAP.
Forget being cool and looking like you’ve got a life outside of your relationship. All you wanna do is spam text them and send memes until they reply back. There is no longer such a thing as being needy, this may just mean having each other’s attention. There is no reason to hide your willingness to engage with them.
2. You’ve memorized their food order.
Ever heard of food as the sixth love language? Whether it’s a good day, a bad day or a day you don’t feel like cooking, bringing home their favorite takeout without asking is a godsend. And also, possibly a sign you two have been eating out a lot.
3. You can take selfies together.
It used to be so embarrassing to take selfies in public! Now, selfies and videos of each other are in abundance on your phones. When you’re feeling stressed out or upset about something, you have plenty of selfies and memories that are so easy and fun to look back on.
4. They dress like Adam Sandler around you.
Forget that cute pair of pants you’ve been wanting to wear out of the house, your sweatpants will feel comfier when you’re driving over or coming back. They’ll still love you, and you won’t have those weird lines the pants were giving you. Save them for a party and just wear the sweats, bestie.
5. There are no secrets between the two of you.
You know what they say — “Tell me your secrets, and you’re also telling my S/O indirectly.” Whether it be your actual S/O’s secrets or their co-workers, siblings or other friends’ drama, you’ll probably be hearing all about it. Yes, even the things you might not have wanted to know in the first place.
6. Manners go out the window.
At the beginning of your relationship, you never think you’ll make it to the stage of your relationship where you can pass some gas or let out a belch without your S/O getting grossed out. And yet, here you are.
7. You run out of things to talk about sometimes.
How awkward when y’all be on video chat laughing about something, then suddenly the call goes silent and you’re just staring at each other through the screen…
8. But it’s okay, because you two can sit in comfortable silence together.
If you can do your own thing in the same room without feeling the need to talk or impress the other person, you’ve made it to a point of true comfort around each other.
9. You worry less about them breaking up with you for the little reasons.
Relationships, especially at the beginning, can be easy to walk away from. When you have anxious tendencies, you’re more likely to ruminate about whether the person you’re with will want to leave you due to small conflicts, even though they’re not big reasons to break up. But once you’re more comfortable with your significant other, and hopefully able to increase your self-assuredness and security in the relationship, then you’re probably going to be thinking less about whether or not you said something wrong or if your argument is about to cause a serious end to your relationship. You can both better resolve conflict, and you overall think less about the worst-case scenario.
10. You can be cringey together.
All those things that used to make you go “ick” about previous partners go out the window. You can make funny TikToks, don’t feel awkward dancing or singing in front of them and can just be your true self. There is nothing your S/O could do to you/in front of you and make you question your relationship choices, and there’s also nothing more freeing than having that special someone to do life with.
Header photo by Andres Ayrton
